From the outside, everything looks right.
And that is exactly why you say nothing to anyone.
And who would you tell, anyway? You have a good job, a home, people who like you. If you say something is missing, it sounds ungrateful. So you do not say it.
Seven sentences.
If three of them land, you are in the right place.
- You make decisions out of expectation rather than conviction, and you only notice afterwards.
- You are available to everyone. Least of all to yourself.
- You have become good at things you never chose.
- You plan your day like a project and your life not at all.
- You have read, listened and learned, and nothing has changed.
- There is a conversation you have been carrying around for months.
- And when someone asks how you are, you pause for a moment to work out what to answer.
It is all there. All of it achieved. And still you sit outside in the evening and think: was that it?
Who this is for. And who it is not for.
- You want to make a decision, not work through a list.
- You can sit with a question that becomes uncomfortable.
- You set aside four to five hours a week for yourself, not just the sessions.
- You want me to tell you honestly what I see, even when you will not like it.
- You are looking for someone who stands beside you, not someone who leads you.
- You want someone to tell you what to do.
- You are looking for a method that works for everyone.
- You are in an acute crisis right now. In that case you need therapy, not coaching, and I will say so openly.
- You want something to change quickly without it costing you anything, comfort included.
- You want someone who agrees with you.
You do not become a different person.
There is no need for that. What changes is the distance between what you want and what you do.
People who have taken this path describe it in much the same way. They decide faster. They explain themselves less. They are present again when someone talks to them.
And at some point they notice that they can answer the question of how they are without having to think about it.
If three of the seven sentences
landed.
Then let us talk for thirty minutes. You tell me what is going on, as much of it as you want to. I tell you honestly whether and how I can help. And if I am not the right person, I will tell you that too.